How 500 Days of Summer changed the way I view Love
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- Опубликовано: 13 апр 2025
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This week we are doing our first ever movie review on my favorite movie of all time-- 500 Days of Summer
There are very few pieces of media that genuinely shift the way I view the world down to my core. This is absolutely one of them.
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Nicky have you ever seen the trilogy Sunrise, Sunset, Midnight? It's such a great plot with a very realistic look on dating, having a partner and love overall. 💝
I remember exactly where I was when I saw this movie as well. I was on a date with a guy I'd been dating a while and I remember sitting in the theatre, watching this film, and thinking in that moment that I was Summer and he was Tom and on the way home I was honest with him about this realization I was having and we basically called things off. I now can relate to both characters in this story so much. It's such a powerful film, so beautifully shot like you said but also the writing and acting capture both sides so perfectly. Far too relatable and not shying away from the pain that can come from falling in love with the "idea" of a person as you explained so well. I also love that quote about rose-colored glasses. LOVE this content Nicky. Been following you for a bit, love all your pop culture content but this was so refreshing and I am 100% here for this type of content as well, always love your takes and deep dives on topics you are passionate about. Also joined your discord. Much love and congrats on all your growth, so well deserved! ✨❤🔥
YES. Absolutely LOVE this movie. I think this should be required viewing for every young adult navigating the dating world. Every time I've watched it, I've felt my opinion slowly shift from one side of the spectrum to the other. When I was younger, I was team Tom all the way, because it's so easy to see Summer as a heartless woman who doesn't believe in love (and as a society, we always root for love!) But when I grew up and realized that having healthy adult relationships means taking what people say at face value, and that sometimes no matter how much you might love someone, it doesn't mean they are actually a good match for you, I'm now team Summer.
How do I begin to love myself
🗣️” Who’s that girl?” - It’s Jess👩🏻🏫
Hey girl, what cha doing?
Hey girl, where ya going? 🩷🩷✨✨
Absolutely hated Summer when I first watched this in the early 2010s, was 100% team Tom. It took living through the plot of the movie myself as Tom for me to revisit the film ten years later and understand that Summer had been telling Tom exactly what would happen all along. I definitely learned to believe what people say about themselves the hard way.
Thank you for discussing this important cultural artefact on your show! I've been a fan since your first video this past summer
LOVE your insight ! fun fact joseph gordon levitt said he actually didn't life this character of his because at the end of the movie ... he doesn't actually learn anything .. he's just moved on to the next thing 😂
Interesting! I do think he does learn something though. Like him quitting his job and pursuing his dream of being an architect is meant to be this physical symbol of his growth
This movie was like therapy to me. Thanks for diving deep into it. I dig your take.
When I first saw this movie in 2010 it was with my future wife and I'd never had a serious breakup. Last year she became my ex wife. In my first relationship post-marriage I was Tom despite Summer being as honest with me as possible. Rewatching this movie and listening to your analysis helped me understand that so much better. Thank you.
I loved this video and it helped me look back on my first relationship that i got out a year ago and your explanation of love and relationships really helped! Like when you were talking anbput your break up I spiraled thinking of what was wrong with me because they moved on so fast. So thank you Nicky for this video. It makes me want to put myself out there again and actually make an effort for my own happiness and that not everyone is moment for anyone and it doesn’t mean I’m a bad person.
I loved that movie and I couldn’t ever really specify why. Thank you for breaking this down for me!
This reminds me so much of the last relationship I was in. I went in not looking for anything serious and she was the same, and because we weren’t looking for a serious thing there was no pressure and that made love an easy trap to fall in to. For me things changed as time went on and being with her I eventually did want a relationship and didn’t say it because I thought if I kept my mouth shut she’d change her mind too. 6 months in I accidentally called her my girlfriend in front of her and we had this whole talk about it and I said “well if that’s not what we are then what actually are we?” And that was all she needed to dump me. What I wanted changed but it didn’t for her and it broke me.
I spent like a year getting over it and went in to the next one wiser and more honest with myself and told my next girlfriend on date one “I’m not sure I’m looking for anything serious right now but I can’t promise that that won’t change” and I ended up saying that to the woman that I’ve been with now for 8 years and is the mother of my child.
Needed this video. I’ve gone on such an amazing healing journey the last 4 years but this was the part I couldn’t quite figure out. It feels comforting and a bit therapeutic to hear this perspective. Definitely going to take what you said and try and apply it when this happens again
i'm currently in a grey spot of confusion not knowing if i'm the summer or the tom and i'm scareddddd
me too omg
@@cr4zyptvgf wishing you the best 😭❤lolol
Babe if you're scared about it, you sure aren't summer.
I never watched the entirety of 500 Days but the parts taught me a lot about expectations & love (even though I've never been in a relationship). I also really enjoy how the visuals enhance the storytelling. Movies like it & Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind are my favourite kind of "romance" films.
Just finished watching 500 Days of Summer and I loved the movie to be honest. While watching I had some mixed feelings and I was kind of confused but ultimately everything was clear.
So let me know if I should watch the movie you've mentioned like what kind of romance is that and how different is that from this one. Also don't give me any spoilers just let me know what do you think
@@Swag_Gaming Not OP but I really like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, more than 500 days. I think you should check it out
This movie is a must watch for ppl in their 20s
14:24 real
25:33 also props to you for being so open
26:59 too real
This is how i would musically summarize this movie and it's different perspectives:
Tom: Casual by Chappell Roan (if it was written from a male perspective lol)
Summer: Vortex by Lizzy McAlpine
Their dynamic / relationship: Reckless Driving by Lizzy McAlpine
This video is so helpful to anyone who has attachment issues on either side!
That makes me so happy to hear🥹
1:02 I understand this concept, but then what do make a girl my soulmate? It's just a "destiny", a conection out of reality? recently i passed throught the same situation as tom, i put so much expectation in a girl that didnt love me back, but I understand why I loved her, now that she isnt with me anymore, she was the only girl that I could ask out to some kind of places, the only girl that I could say some things that i couldnt say to other people, she understood all of my nerd jokes, she was kind, beautiful, smart, funny, and I felt that I could deliver me into this relationship (even if sometimes she showed me that she wasnt too much into me)
I think your perspective is still coming from a place of expectation. You have an image that you hold strongly in your mind. Sometimes as human beings, we unknowingly create the perfect person in our head and project it onto a person. So much so that we forget that other people in the world are better able to meet our needs and desires. She showed she wasn't as interested in you, and you proceeded to continue the relationship. I've been on both sides of the fence. What I can say from being perceived as someone's "soulmate" .... I could see what they were projecting onto me. It made me uncomfortable and believe it or not: unseen. A person deserves to be loved as a whole. My partner was not unkind or actively tried to mold me into something. They already thought I was this person. I tried communicating multiple times how it was unhealthy, and it later showed in moments where the image they had of me broke. When I was no longer an escape for them or could not fit into what they imagined I was. It is hard to feel fully loved when your partner almost idolizes you, that throws the dynamic off. Instead of looking for this "soulmate" take the pressure off and look for someone you are compatible with. Love isn't always this whirlwind feeling right away (and I think some would agree that when it is- it usually doesn't work out the way we would hope.) Shifting perspective changes a lot of our ideas of love for the better. It's really difficult at first, but I think you'll thank yourself later for doing the work. Is there a reason why you kept pursuing someone who was emotionally unavailable? Did you really love her for HER or what you thought she was to you? I hope you find the love you are looking for.💛
I don't believe in soulmates. I think people are more or less compatible, and eventually you find someone worth settling down with. It's critical that you both be on the same page... It feels awful to not live up to someone's expectations, if it seems they love those expectations more than you. It also breeds resentment whenever you love a fiction and the reality is consistently disappointing.
You say that this girl is the only person you can do certain things with, but you can't know the future. You can't know that someone else won't fill those wants. You can't know that someone else won't match you better. A critical part is if that person loves you back.
beautiful analysis, loved every second
I think you changed the thumbnail and title for the video and that helped me to click on it. I didn't know it was yours when I was scrolling through my recommended but once I saw you in the thumbnail I went "oh, it's Nicky! click."
I watched this movie recently and it is unfortunately the most realistic slap in the face a hopeless romantic (me) needs lol
It also really validated how I felt in my past relationship where overtime I kept coming back to the same conclusions (that I didn’t love him) but wasn’t being heard, and was manipulated into staying.
I love your videos! Your point of view is methodical, well rounded, thought provoking and so so real.
Keep doing you🤍
Next step is to read White nights by dostoyevsky. Had to stop the first 2 times because it was bloody painful how relatable but repulsive the main characters POV felt.
@@Isaiah_McIntosh is that book also like this movie? Will I like that book if I loved watching 500 Days of summer?
Really enjoyed this - you're incredibly likeable!
Definitely was the Tom in my last relationship and still dealing with the fallout, but happy to finally learn the lessons this film tried to teach me over a decade ago 🙃
Also, if you enjoyed this I think you'd really enjoy 'Comet' with Justin Long - v underrated!
This movie is showed me that ive been tom and have tom tendencies even now but if it wasn't for this movie i wouldn't even be self aware of that i love movies like this that stand the test of time because its hyper relatable
What's hard is to figure out when people are not emotionally available seem hesitant even say they are, but still want to keep things going. The cue is when they don't want to discuss why they act hesitant. Still, giving mixed signals is bound for disaster, if someone has lingering feelings for an ex they shouldn't get into a relationship with anyone.
26:16 NOOOOOO oh no 😭 u r so real for keeping this part in tho fr 😂 I get that we're adults or whatever but I still hope u hooked up with his best friend. I fully support being healed & analyzing it calmly & rationally.... & still get petty revenge just for good measure
HAHAHA thank you!!! I’m honestly not even trying to get “revenge” in any way. I’ve just moved on
@@nicky.reardon that's the best revenge :) love ur videos btw I cant wait 'til u get to 1mil!
love this video. really helps me interpret and understand the things going on in my own life.
my favourite movie ever!! loved that u covered it
Love your realness and analysis’s. The videos I know I needed!
you gave me a new appreciation for this movie
What if the guy you love and know is the only person you’ll ever wanna be intimate with again doesn’t support your creative pursuits like can’t handle the artistry because he’s so conventional .. when we first started dating, he used to like try to impress me by playing the guitar and now he never wants to talk about my music or anything. I don’t know. I don’t think that anyone should be with a person that doesn’t support what they love to do. Period. Literally just as a hobby.
You'll get past old situations as soon as you're in a better one. Then when things slow down you'll kind of want that old "good" situation again, but then you'll fall into a better one and forget it all over again, and so on lol
@ Ty 🥹🙏❣️
omg (first???) a video by one of my fave youtubers making a video about my favourite movie???
i adore this movie so much, i am sadly summer and tom at the same time
😔 (my name is also literally summer lolol)
@@RainTheStrawberry this is literally my
Favorite movie of all time I could talk about it for HOURSSSS
@@nicky.reardon omg SAMEE (and i can listen to people talk about it for hours and then i get more talking points, the cycle continues hehe). i'm so glad my dad loves the movie too because i have someone to rant to about it as much as i so desire lol
When we first met my husband said he never wanted a serious relationship again. 3 years later he proposed 😂😂
I thoroughly enjoy your videos!
This video is so important. ✨
Woah I didn’t realize this was your channel till I clicked on it. Yay I love this movie. It’s kind of fucked up and depressing though I’ve known girls like that actually I think I’m kinda like that. Fuck.
Did not expect to cry in this video, tbh
If you wanna get serious, figure out where the other person stands. if your close with family or have good friends, get them involved in observing their actions and character for a clearer perspective. because you should only get into a relationship if your serious and have a clear perspective on the other, because peoples hearts and your own heart isnt a joke. thats why i personally prefer traditional methods because i feel like it helps you figure out who they are before you get involved with them, because thats when things get messy. however, if your family doesnt allign with your values, it becomes a bit harder but you can have friends, but you need a support system because emotions get the best us all. prevention is better than the cure always.
Went through a relationship like theirs, actually watched this movie with the guy and still didn’t see it 😅
Hindsight is 20/20 🤭😂
Happily married my old teenage love now, life is strange and beautiful ❤️🫶🏻
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Amazing video!
I really enojoy the topics that you talk ❤🎉
It happens u know I look back on relationships and go she wasn't given me sex eyes she was given me love eyes
And I remember everyone in the shopping plaza where we worked thought we were a couple
And every time I brought it up
She would go "let's just say we are"
But I was too slow back than
Wayne would've told me "are you mental!? Get the net!"
Will this episode be on spotify?
Yes! Running into technical issues. I already contacted their customer support and they’re looking into it, but as soon as it’s resolved it’ll go up! :)
Bro why do you keep saying she doesn't want to be a boyfriend 😂she doesn't want to be a GIRLFRIEND
2:20 I’m so down for discord. Hell yeah I want to talk about music with you.
any comment
born to be a tom, forced to be a summer
4 the Algorithm
My hero
@@nicky.reardon always at your service, sir 🫡
This movie was a great comedy. It was about an entitled moron who ignored the job market. He didn't love being an architect. He was only in love with the idea of being an architect. It was his idea of a profession. He had a bunch of expectations, but ignored the reality of his chances of being hired and the salary and benefits. He projected all his fantasies onto that profession. He only wanted to be an architect because a lot of men in romance movies are architects. Tom stupidly quit a perfectly good job because it was not his dream job. He had a boss most employees wish they had. It was implied that he was paid well and got good benefits for the level and amount of work he did.